In the fast-paced world we live in, filled with screens and constant distractions, there’s a simple yet profound practice that can bring about incredible benefits for our wellbeing: the power of a full-body hug. Registered Psychotherapist, Susan Haller, shares how a hug can foster a deeper connection to our wellbeing.
Engaging in a full-body hug goes beyond a simple expression of affection. It delves into the neurobiology of human connection. Our brains are wired for secure attachment, a need that originates in utero and persists throughout our lifespan. When we embrace someone with full chest and stomach contact, a hormone called oxytocin is released. Described by Dr. Sue Johnson as “the master chemical of social connection,” oxytocin plays a pivotal role in creating a sense of secure bonding and connection.
Alleviating the Fear of Abandonment
Our attachment system is finely tuned to comings and goings, and any disruption can trigger a fear of abandonment. Hugging becomes a powerful tool to relieve this perceived threat, bringing us into a state of calm and reassurance. Holding the hug is key. Listening to and feeling the other person’s breathing, letting go only when both are ready.
The Eyes Have It
Adding an extra layer to the hug experience, gazing into the eyes of the person before or after embracing intensifies the sense of relaxation, safety, and connection. This simple yet profound act enhances the overall impact of the hug, creating a moment of shared vulnerability and understanding.
From Cradle to Adult: The Continuity of Care
Just as we regulate and calm our babies by holding them close, we can extend that care to one another as adults. The act of hugging becomes a bridge between generations, showcasing the timeless importance of touch and connection in fostering holistic wellbeing.
If you are interesting in learning more about secure attachment or are seeking effective ways to manage stress and anxiety, book an appointment with Psychotherapist, Susan Haller here.
